March 17, 2021
Defining FemDom – What is Female Domination?
What is FemDom? At its simplest, FemDom is derived from the terms Female Domination and Female Dominance. But there’s a lot more that needs to be teased out before it can be understood since it’s used in such a wide range of ways. It can be a kink, a lifestyle or both. The term FemDom […]
January 7, 2019
Warning! Femdom Social Media Scams
While scams and impersonation have long been an issue in the world of professional BDSM, in recent months there has been a strong uptick in scammer activity. Most commonly the scammers create a social media account for a Domme, using her brand, content and pictures without her knowledge. In order to evade detection they will […]
November 21, 2016
slave writing: My first session with Mistress.
One of my slaves recently wrote extensively on Fetlife about his first session with me. Reposting here with his permission as I am sure others would enjoy reading this! My first session with Mistress. I attended not knowing what would be required of me. Extremely nervous and self conscious I approached the door. I could […]
October 8, 2015
Brat Attack – “Crime”, Punishment, Consent & Ethics.
“For this cancellation, I deserve more punishment. “ “I am sorry I wasted so much of your time but if you are angry at me shouldn’t we have a session? Then you can get revenge right? “ Right? No. Wrong actually. In the context of professional kink these types of interactions tend to indicate a […]
March 29, 2015
What to Expect: A post for first timers!
I really love intro sessions! It’s always an honour to introduce a new submissive to the world of kink. Personally it’s very gratifying to feed off the intensity of an experience that for so many is the culmination of years of longing and fantasy. Of course those contemplating a first session are always anxious, excited […]
March 8, 2015
My Interview w/ Lawyer and Sex Work Advocate KateontheGo
Republished here as Kate’s blog is no longer online. 1. How would you describe your role in the sex industry? As a Dominatrix I deal with erotic expression that falls outside the standard vanilla “box”. Kink, BDSM & Fetish,.specifically experiences where people want to be topped in some way.. My job is more varied than […]
February 20, 2015
Kink is not a competition.
I absolutely love playing hard. Really riding the edge of an experience is both exhilarating and intoxicating. Of course everyone has a different edge. Not only that the edge can be different from playtime to playtime. We’re all at different points in our kink journey. Many of us will move on to play harder. Some […]
February 1, 2015
Kink, abuse and “that book” : A resource post.
Yesterday my interview with journalist Caroline Baum was published in the Sydney Morning Herald’s Spectrum magazine. The piece was primarily concerned with how the publishing industry relates to erotic fiction aimed at women. Of course, no current discussion of that topic could be complete without a mention of 50 Shades of Grey. I enjoyed chatting […]
October 19, 2014
Preparing for Play
I’ve quite often mentioned that I love the variety I experience working as a Professional Dominatrix. I’m lucky enough to engage in many different types of kink play with many different people. There’s lots of different approaches to play – for some (often lighter players) sessioning is just a fun, erotic form of entertainment. As […]
August 7, 2014
Creating “safe space” in session.
The ever popular image of Mistress as a cruel, heartless, cold bitch is a fantasy hot button for many slaves…but I’m also aware that my slaves very deeply appreciate the care, attention and intention that I invest in my sessions. One of the most amazing privileges of my role is being able to create and […]
April 4, 2014
Thank You to my slaves.
I receive and publish quite a lot of lovely thank you notes from my slaves. Today I wanted to say thank you also. Thank you to the slaves who do their research. It’s always amazing when people decide they want to play with me but I’m also grateful for those who have done their homework, […]